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BELIEFS
Hello, welcome to the fourth lesson. This one is “Beliefs.” Let’s get started.
Beliefs are another important part managing your psychology, of strengthening your psychology so that you will learn English, anything in fact, much faster. And there are two kinds beliefs to general categories of beliefs. Limiting and empowering.
Let’s talk about limiting first. Now limiting means, limit is something that stops you. It’s a boundary. It stops you from going ahead. So a limiting belief a belief that stops you from improving, a belief stops you from getting better. And I’d say most English have limiting beliefs and many English students have very limiting beliefs. I call these beliefs English trauma and I got name from a few of my Japanese students. They tell me “AJ, I can’t speak English well because have English trauma.”
What is English trauma? What that, what are they talking about? Well, trauma means some kind of injury, some kind hurt. Emotional hurt, deep emotional hurt. So what they mean is they had some very negative, painful experiences with English the past. In other words, when they were in school in classes, even as adults going to other English schools, they had very negative experiences. And all negative experiences have created some very negative beliefs, some limiting beliefs. For example, they say “I am not good at English.” Well, that’s a belief. may be true, it may not be true. But it’s opinion, it’s a belief that they have.
Another belief, a very belief, English is difficult. Or, English is complicated. Well, that’s just belief. For me English very easy, because I’m a speaker, just like your native language for you is easy. Tomoe can speak Japanese fluently because she’s Japanese, I might say “Japanese is difficult,” and she would say “No, Japanese super easy.” These are just beliefs that come from our experiences. The problem is these limiting limit us. They in fact do limit us. They stop us from
getting better. cause a lot of problems for us as students, as learners. have them, too. As I try to learn Japanese, for example, I have lot of these limiting beliefs I realize. I think “Oh, Japanese so difficult.” Japanese is complicated, just look at the system. It’s so different from English. And these beliefs my motivation. They lower my energy, and in fact they’re wrong.
They’re not true. Japanese does not have be difficult, it does not have to be compli- cated. A small child, even a American child, could learn Japanese very effortlessly, very easily. the reason is, the number one reason is, they don’t the limiting beliefs. They can sing songs and play games and enjoy the language, and they’ll it so quickly, so easily, they’ll say “Japanese is easy.” Well, it’s the same with English with you. You learned a very painful, difficult way in the past. And you developed, you created these beliefs in your head. English difficult. English is boring. English is painful. I’m not good at English. I’ll never speak excellent English. are just beliefs.
So how do you eliminate these beliefs? Okay, you have beliefs. You know they’re negative, you know they’re not helping you. But we to figure out, how can we get rid of limiting beliefs? That’s the first step, you have to weaken them. have to make them weaker and weaker and weaker. You have to cut down. Well beliefs get stronger from references. And reference is just experience or a memory. Sometimes it’s just something you imagine, actually. But it’s a experience or a specific imagination, a specific moment, that makes belief stronger or weaker. So, for example, you have idea “English is painful and boring.” And when you think of this belief, where it come from?
Well, you think of all these experiences. You think of the time in middle school where your teacher corrected mistake and you felt terrible. And you think of maybe bad grades you got on the test or all the red marks on your papers. And you start adding more and more and more memories, more of these negative experiences, negative references. And if you get enough, you will develop a very, strong, deep, powerful “English is difficult. English is painful. I’m not good at English.” So to these, you just have to question the references.
You have to question experiences. Take the power away from the experiences. And easy way to do that is just to ask about them. For example, let me ask this question. Your past English schools, were they excellent? Were just fantastic English schools with fantastic, amazing, fun, positive English teachers? Did you have a great time day? Well, I know for most of you the answer is no. that’s interesting, so if your schools were not excellent, the school was the problem. Maybe it’s not you. Maybe your English is not because you did not go to great schools. And did those schools that went to, or the books you used, did they use methods? Did they use research-based methods? Did they know lot about the research about English learning, English teaching? Did they only use the methods? Or did they just use the textbook that else uses?
Well, I know from my experience as teacher, most schools just use the same textbooks. They don’t why. Maybe the boss tells them “We must use this book.” But they’re choosing the very, very best methods. They’re not choosing the very, very best books. And maybe the reason you believe English is difficult is because you used difficult methods in the past, or teachers did. Maybe you think English is boring because the past you used boring methods. You went to schools. You had boring teachers. Maybe English isn’t the problem. Maybe it these past experiences. Maybe it was the way you did it or where you did it. yourself these questions. Think about them in detail. Weaken your limiting beliefs. your limiting beliefs. Another question, in school did you learn deeply? For example, did you take one in your book and learn it for a long time so that you totally mastered it, that you knew it completely, 100% and never forgot it? not, most schools I have seen and the ones I have in, it’s quite the opposite. The teachers go very, very, quickly. You learn one chapter in your book, boom, after one week on the next one, and the next one. Each chapter has many new words, so much new grammar.
For example, my experience with Spanish high school and university, I took Spanish, I’ve had total of maybe two years of Spanish, but I forgot all. Because we never learned deeply. They just tried to make us learn as words as possible, a lot of words, a lot of words, a lot of grammar, very, fast. And then, of course, I forgot everything. How about you? Did learn deeply in your schools? If not, maybe that was one of the problems. Maybe feels difficult because you never learned deeply. Maybe English not the problem.
Finally, did you learn with a grammar method? Did you study a lot of grammar rules? Did you a lot of tests? Did you feel good about that? Again, maybe the method was the problem. Maybe the school the problem, not English. So think about these questions and think about every day. Think about them a lot, especially this week you listen to Lesson Number 4. I want you to think these questions again and again and again. And really be honest about it. And start to these limiting beliefs. Get rid of them. They’re wrong. English is not difficult. is not painful. English is not boring. It’s only a belief. It’s a past experience. You can change that now and in future. So let’s do that.
Let’s talk now about beliefs, the positive side. So to empower, the verb, to empower to make stronger. It means to give power to another person. Or in this case, it means beliefs give you power. An empowering belief is a belief that you feel powerful, that gives you power. That’s the of beliefs you want and you need to choose them. must decide which beliefs will make you stronger. For example, here’s an empowering belief. can replace your old limiting belief, add this one instead. You can say “My is a natural language learning machine.” Because that’s what all of the scientific research shows, brain naturally learns languages. It is designed to learn language. should be easy. It should be effortless. It should feel good. You learned your native that way. It wasn’t difficult was it? English was easy me to learn, because I did it in a totally natural way. the more naturally I tried to learn Japanese, for example, or Spanish, the it feels. So this is a new belief and you write it down, think about it. Write down this idea, belief “My brain is a natural language learning machine.” about it every day. Decide to choose that belief. Here’s another belief you might decide choose “English can be fun and effortless.”
English can be fun and effortless. That’s an empowering belief it’s also true. You can think of a lot of examples this. Some of these mini-stories you’re listening to, right? They’re fun. They’re stupid, sometimes. They’re crazy, sometimes. they’re not serious. English can be fun and effortless. That’s an empowering belief you want to and you want to remember it every day.
And to these beliefs stronger, you need experiences. Remember, you need references, you need examples prove the belief. So I’m going to give you some examples you can find more. Go find people who speak very well. Or maybe even that have learned another language well. I’ll give you one of my favorite examples, Steve Kaufman of The Linguist speaks, believe, twelve languages now. I want you to find these people and look at their beliefs. I’ll tell some of his beliefs because he’s a friend, I’ve talked to him a of times, and Steve believes, for example, that language learning is easy effortless. That’s his belief. He’s a native English speaker, he speaks Cantonese, speaks Mandarin, he speaks Japanese, he speaks Russian. These all, supposedly, difficult languages. For him they’re not difficult. They’re and effortless. That’s a very strong belief he has.
Another he has is that you must learn language naturally you must focus on meaning. So in other words, doesn’t focus on the grammar. He’s not focusing on boring textbooks. He’s reading interesting that he enjoys. He’s listening to interesting things that he enjoys. So, him, language learning is interesting. What’s really interesting for is that these are the same beliefs that all of best students have. They all have these same ideas. The students, the ones who learn the fastest, the ones have the best test scores, the ones with the best speaking, they all these things. They all believe that English is fun, interesting effortless. They all believe that language learning is natural. all believe that they should focus on the meaning, on the grammar and the little pieces of the language. So if you want be like these successful people, you need to think like them. You need to have the same as them.
So here’s what I want you to do. Here’s your homework. This is last thing, the last part of this lesson. What I you to do is write down two, three, four empowering beliefs, beliefs give you power about English. Maybe “My brain is a natural language machine.” Maybe “English can be fun and effortless.” Maybe “I English.” I don’t know, write down, two, three, four empowering beliefs English. And every day you’re going to do an incantation. That’s good word, that’s a new word, incantation.
An is a phrase or sentence that you say again and again. has almost a magic idea, it comes from magic. incantation is a magical sentence. It’s a sentence, you say the something will happen. That’s where it comes from. But for us an incantation is just belief you are going to repeat again and again and again every day.So here’s what you’re to do. For example “English can be fun and effortless.” You’re to say that out loud every day while you’re along and you’re doing your posture. And you’re breathing and you’re smiling. Well, you’re going add one more thing. As you walk, as you’re getting for the lesson, you’re going to repeat this out loud. You’re going to “English can be fun and effortless.” You’re going to say it some emotion. Say it with feeling so you’re smiling, you’re breathing deep, you’re moving your body, you have good and now you’re also saying these strong beliefs. English be fun and effortless. You repeat it again. English be fun and effortless. And then you say it again. English can be fun and effortless.
You can do in your room and its fine. You can do outside and make everyone look at you and think you’re crazy. Why not? It’s better feeling powerless, right? It’s better than being bored. I promise you will learn much faster if you do this. So do these incantations every day just before you do lesson. Get your body strong, peak emotional state, and say these incantations. English can be fun and effortless. can be fun and effortless. Now your body, your mind, beliefs, they’re all together, very strong. Then you’re ready to learn.
Okay, that is the end the main story for “Beliefs.”